Significant Others

I recently posted a picture of my husband and I and we were at Tallulah Gorge in Georgia. We went down to Georgia to visit my mother and grandfather and to get our certification in scuba diving and we suceeded. YEAH!!!!!!!!

My husband and I do not get to spend much time together, so we now had a whole week together with no kids. WOW!!! We always have agood time together and we work well together. This little vacation got me to think about relationships now and in the past. I won't give any gory details, but I find them fascinating.

I grew up in a household with a mother and father, they married at 19 and are still together for 34 years. My mother was a stay at home and my father traveled all over the US with his job. So in all, he was probaly home a 100 days out of the year. My father still travels with work and that relationship seems to work well with them. Mom and Dad love to seee each other on the weekends and then they are on their own. now do not get me wrong they had their ups and downs. Do you know someone like that?

Take my mother's parents - My grandparents got married at the age of 17, had 2 children and worked together in the same office for 50 years. They then retired and did everything together. My grandmother never got her drivers license. So when my grandmother developed cancer and passed it away, it was devastating on all of us, but it just about killed my grandfather. He had lost his everything. My granfather is only 74 and in good health, so he could meet women, but I do not think that he will ever develop more than friendship, because Grandma was his one and only. Do you know someone like that?

My husband and I met 3 years ago this January and it was a 2nd marriage for both of us. It was rough intially. We met because he was the cop that came to my house after an ex-boyfriend had strangled and beat me. We started seeing each other a month later and we were married in 9 months. His previous marriage had been over for about 11 years and he had a set of twin girls from that marriage (15 years old now) but he had dated a girl for about 3 months, they broke up and then 6 months later they met at a party and a little this and a little that and then she came to him two months later and said that she was pregnant. He moved her in so that she would have a good roof over her shoulders and he wanted to be there for the babies. She had twins, a boy and a girl. So when Wayne and I met, she was still living there, but he said that there was no relationship, he just wanted to provide for the children, plus it was cheaper than having to pay child support. Well lets just say that mine and her's relationship was rough from the start. Now we all get along great, but it wasn't easy.

Wayne and I work really well together and when we are apart alot and do not see each other, we actually fight more. When we are together we are very happy. Now my past relationships were not like that. I was extremely independent and I would see the guy I was dating when I wanted to and it usually boiled down to one or twice a week. Funny how we change...

I look at his parents and they have a lousy relationship. They do not share a bed, they sleep in seperate rooms and they are very negative to each other. Nothing ever nice, but this is how they work together. Do you know someone like that?

Divorce is never easy on anyone. The married people, the children and even friends, it is always hard to deal with. My first marriage was bad, actually it should never have happened, but I learned a lot. I learned about what I wanted and how I wanted to be treated and I was never ging to settle for less. Now everybody thought that I would never get married again, even me, but when my husband and I met it was like we fit together and that we were to each other that part that had been missing out of our lives. Do you know someone like that?

I have a friend that has been married several times. She always picks out the men that treat her really bad. They drink, they beat on her, they manipulate her. I asked her one time, why does she settle for that, when she could do so much better and her reply was that she did not think she deserved better. Do you know someone like that?

I watch teenagers all the time get married because they got pregnant and it is the right thing to do and in actuality it is the wrong thing to do. It is easier to jump into someone's bed and have a romp , then to make a relationship grow together when you are suddenly faced with a child, jobs and bills.

I tell my stepchildren all the time, that they must love themselves before they can love someone else and that they must now each other before they committ. Now I must state that I do believe someone ahould live with their significant other before they consider marriage, because a lot of little interesting things can come out...
I look at relationships all around me and I love to hear how they work, the pros and cons. Why do we settle, why do we strive for the material things, when all that matters is our family, love and truth. Did they get together for love or for money or for the prestige or because they got pregnant or because they are not ready to admit they are homosexual?

I challenge you to look at your relationship and others around you??? Can you learn something from someone else? Can you help them through something?

The key to ALL relationships is COMMUNICATION!!! You must talk to one each other. I am not a mind reader and neither are you.